What do you do in situations where you’re not quite sure if the student you are addressing is a boy or a girl?
“Charlie” is a cute 3rd grader with chin length blond hair, wearing a stylish long sleeved shirt not tucked in, but over skinny legged jeans. In this school it’s not safe to assume that the name “Charlie” indicates a definite gender.
The face, voice and mannerisms can go either way. This isn’t the first time or even the second that I’ve run into situations like this. Having been wrong twice before, I don’t want to make this the third strike.
I’m NOT going embarrass him/her (and more importantly myself) by asking. I’m certainly not going to ask any other kid in class to clue me in so for most of the day, when needed, I just address “Charlie” by name and continue to watch for some deciding factor before making yet another inadvertent faux-pas.
It came just as everyone was lining up for the 1st recess when two boys in line were fighting over a ball to take out with them. Deciding that neither of these guys should get the prize, took the ball and tossed it to “Charlie” wherein one of the losers said:
“Awww, HE always gets to take the ball out!”
-- Dilemma solved!