Katie put a booger on my chair!!
As designated chair inspector for the day, I pointed out that the indicated booger on his chair was just a scuff mark.
“It’s NOT A BOOGER! Now let’s get back to work and quit tattling!”
At first impressions, it appeared that the short, cute little girl was being picked on and bullied by some of the other kids in the classroom. But after the first half dozen, tattletale complaints, I started watching Katie with more than the usual frequency of required scrutiny. Initial impressions can be wrong.
It’s the second day in this classroom and I’m see that “they” aren’t picking on Katie, SHE is picking on “them”!!
Katie goes out of her way to tick off as many of her classmates as possible in the most irritating ways and she’s very sneaky about doing it!
When she thinks I’m not looking in her direction and she’s off on the next quest to push some buttons. If she’s not constantly blowing her nose and pretending to wipe it on chairs, desks and bodies on her way to the trash can, she’s snatching anything that isn’t nailed down off/under/around the desks of other kids as she wanders the room.
Katie (not her real name) is a 3rd grader at the country club school just up the road from where I live. She is having a hard time making friends. It’s pretty easy to see why.
When I had a chance, I called her over for a quite conference to point out that I was aware of some of the things she was doing.
K: Nobody likes me.
Me: Why do you think that?
Me: Do you think maybe that when someone takes things without asking might not be the best way to “borrow” stuff?
K: (nods yes)
Me: Katie, can you see how words like ‘please’, ‘thank you’, and ‘May I’ might help you to make friends.
K: I don’t have any friends.
Me: No friends at all?
K: (she nods the affirmative).
Me: Don’t you want to have friends?
K: (another nod).
Me: Do you see how taking other kids’ things and putting pretend boogers on peoples’ stuff might not seem “friendly”?
K: (another nod)
Me: So why don’t we try to do the ‘friendly’ thing and “ask” permission before “borrowing” stuff and also stop putting pretend boogers on people.
Do you think that might work?
K: (smiles and nods again)
Me: Let’s get back to work, OK?
As she makes her way back to her chair, I watch as she snatched a pencil off the first unattended desk she passed.
My end of day report, including observations about Katie, was probably not new information to the teacher.